It's true to say that many younger men, on reaching the age in their lives when pubescence has taken control of their lateral thinking, find themselves fantasizing about older females, often twice their own age and upwards. For example, it's quite common for a young man, still at school age, testosterone flying everywhere, to have the 'hots' for one or more of his female teachers, a neighbor's wife or even a pal's mother.
The consensus of opinion reached by many is that the attraction by a young male to a more mature woman is based on the fact that not only does she have experience.. but a working knowledge of the male anatomy, and a sexual prowess not to be discovered so easily in a younger woman his own age.
Although there are exceptions to the rule, in the majority of cases, his secret lusting remains just that, and goes unnoticed by the older female who still regards him as a young student or friend of her son.
Howerever, as the young male grows older, and gains his own level of experience, so his desire for the maturer female wanes, and on reaching middle age, he will frequently have his head 'turned' by a much younger woman.
All this is in stark contrast to the attraction patterns noted in the life of the female of the species. Whereas the young girl, on first becoming sexually aware, will hone her intimacy skills on the younger male, yet she will often be less interested in him as she gets older, turning her attention to the more mature men that cross her path. But why is this the case?
The Sugar Daddy Phenomenon, whilst oftentimes the source of amusement for some, can in fact develop into quite a powerful relationship, with loyalty, romance and chivalry being key factors in the union. Many women note that a male around her own age or younger, will not show her the same level of respect, or pay as much attention to detail that his older counterpart will be inclined to display.
It's a valid point that most women are more mature than men at any given age, and it's not surprising that by the time she reaches her mid-thirties, she already feels more compatible with a male ten or twenty years her senior, and has left the guys her own age, far behind both mentally and emotionally. Her more mature partner is more equipped to seduce her mind as well as her body. He will be less afraid of displaying public affection, holding her hand or opening doors for her. He will be happy to allow the whole world see how proud he is to be by her side.
Sexually too, although he may not be an athlete between the sheets, he will feel the need to ensure his girl is pleasured well as a priority over seeking to satisfy his own desires. Her younger lover will no doubt give her "the best seventeen seconds she's ever had", before raiding her fridge in search of a beer. Whereas in the case of her older lover, the foreplay will begin in the restaurant with witty flirting, eye contact and laughter. Later they will enjoy the afterglow together, the passion may have subsided but the emotion still very much alive.
The term 'Sugar Daddy' was first used in the early 1920's and is described in the WordWeb Dictionary as "A wealthy older male who offers a young person expensive gifts in return for friendship or intimacy". The 'sugar' in this early term alluded to the sweetening role of the gifts, and 'daddy' to the age difference between the pair. There is no mention however, of love, romance or indeed a relationship in the dictionary description of the term, yet it is a fact that women are often attracted, even turned on by men of substance or power. Is it so inconceivable then, that a younger woman could find happiness in a relationship with a guy old enough to be her father, who has so much more to offer her than money and gifts?
maandag 4 juni 2012
donderdag 31 mei 2012
Seniors Looking For Love
It’s never too late for love, and with thousands of active Senior singles online seeking friendship and romance, it‘s not hard to find either. Just join a Senior online dating service, login, and you are in control of what could be a life changing adventure.
More and more Senior citizens are getting connected to the internet everyday. What a pleasurable experience it could be to start sharing conversations with others while online. Interaction with others can take away any loneliness anyone might have in their life. Social circles are popping up all over the internet. And this is achieved from the comfort of their homes. This is an excellent vehicle if they have trouble getting out, or don‘t know where to meet other Seniors.
It doesn‘t matter what area of the world you are from, there is always someone, somewhere online ready to chat with another Senior single. A quick introduction with someone, and new friends are made instantly. Share your experiences and childhood memories, some nostalgia is only a mouse click away. Login any time of the day, there are no opening hours online.
The price of friendship is relatively cheap as well. A months subscription can be as little as the cab fare for a couple of nights out. You even get a free trial to try out the dating services first. This gives you the advantage of seeing how popular a service is, and how many Senior singles live locally. If a single is enjoying their journey on the way to romance, subscriptions can be purchased in 3, 6, or 12 month packages. This will also cut down the cost of each individual month considerably.
A Senior single can contact another single after they have viewed their profile. They can see the things they love about life first, so they know their common interests before hand. This gives a much better chance of two singles connecting as soon as the conversation is initiated.
Senior online dating services offer Senior singles a better chance of finding friendship and romance later in life. It’s never too late to start something new, so why not start it with someone else?
More and more Senior citizens are getting connected to the internet everyday. What a pleasurable experience it could be to start sharing conversations with others while online. Interaction with others can take away any loneliness anyone might have in their life. Social circles are popping up all over the internet. And this is achieved from the comfort of their homes. This is an excellent vehicle if they have trouble getting out, or don‘t know where to meet other Seniors.
It doesn‘t matter what area of the world you are from, there is always someone, somewhere online ready to chat with another Senior single. A quick introduction with someone, and new friends are made instantly. Share your experiences and childhood memories, some nostalgia is only a mouse click away. Login any time of the day, there are no opening hours online.
The price of friendship is relatively cheap as well. A months subscription can be as little as the cab fare for a couple of nights out. You even get a free trial to try out the dating services first. This gives you the advantage of seeing how popular a service is, and how many Senior singles live locally. If a single is enjoying their journey on the way to romance, subscriptions can be purchased in 3, 6, or 12 month packages. This will also cut down the cost of each individual month considerably.
A Senior single can contact another single after they have viewed their profile. They can see the things they love about life first, so they know their common interests before hand. This gives a much better chance of two singles connecting as soon as the conversation is initiated.
Senior online dating services offer Senior singles a better chance of finding friendship and romance later in life. It’s never too late to start something new, so why not start it with someone else?
maandag 21 mei 2012
Online Dating For Seniors
Dating at any age can be scary, with wondering what to wear or if the other person will like you. For seniors it can be overwhelming, especially if they are getting back into the dating scene after a divorce or death of their spouse. Many seniors believe they don't have the emotional energy it would seem to take to start dating again.
The purpose of any first date is to determine whether or not you both want a second one, and senior dating online is a great solution. The ability to meet other seniors online and chat with them for as long as you'd like before making plans to meet in person is a great way for seniors to start dating again, to get comfortable with someone before having to decide what to wear or even if they like you!
An online dating service will get you set up with a profile of your likes and dislikes, and the type of person you'd like to meet. Online personals and internet dating for seniors is seeing a climbing rate of members; some free online dating services will not charge you to join, or to answer an ad, or post your profile. A good service will block people from contacting you after you've chatted with them and determined that they are not your type, which is a great safety feature when you have a hard time saying no. The best online dating advice is to chat with the other person about the same things you'd talk about out on a date-likes and dislikes, etc., that way you can get a good idea of where to go on your first date out of cyber space.
You can choose single seniors online dating, or Christian online dating services, even narrow your search by age or other religion. There are over 100 free dating online sites to choose from, so get out your keyboard and get back out there, someone is waiting for you!
The purpose of any first date is to determine whether or not you both want a second one, and senior dating online is a great solution. The ability to meet other seniors online and chat with them for as long as you'd like before making plans to meet in person is a great way for seniors to start dating again, to get comfortable with someone before having to decide what to wear or even if they like you!
An online dating service will get you set up with a profile of your likes and dislikes, and the type of person you'd like to meet. Online personals and internet dating for seniors is seeing a climbing rate of members; some free online dating services will not charge you to join, or to answer an ad, or post your profile. A good service will block people from contacting you after you've chatted with them and determined that they are not your type, which is a great safety feature when you have a hard time saying no. The best online dating advice is to chat with the other person about the same things you'd talk about out on a date-likes and dislikes, etc., that way you can get a good idea of where to go on your first date out of cyber space.
You can choose single seniors online dating, or Christian online dating services, even narrow your search by age or other religion. There are over 100 free dating online sites to choose from, so get out your keyboard and get back out there, someone is waiting for you!
woensdag 16 mei 2012
How To Date An Older Woman
Age does not matter! These words seem familiar, right. Dating older woman is very common these days. Guys are interested in dating older woman since they believe that they are more experienced and are more capable of handling relationships smoothly. Not only that, older women are perceived to be more mature, financially independent, and good lovers. If you are a guy interested in dating older woman, then no need to have second thoughts. Here are some helpful tips in successfully dating older woman to make your dating experience truly worthwhile.
Before you go on dating older woman, you must first know what kind of relationship that you want. Are you just going for a short-term relationship or a long-term? Is it for marriage? Try to assert yourself what it is really that you want before you start dating older woman. Once you are sure of yourself, the fun of dating begins. Dating older woman can be a nice and exciting experience. You must always remember to have fun and always see the lighter side of life to enjoy every moment of your dating experience. When you set your mind that dating older woman is fun, things will work out smoothly and you will find happiness in what you do. And stop worrying what others will think. In this society although many accept the fact of dating older woman, still some raise their eyebrows when they see couples together with such age gap. Don’t mind them. They will not make you less of a person. Be confident and focus yourself on your desire of dating older woman.
It is necessary that you find an older woman who is interested in a younger man. You will have bigger chances of success to win the heart of the older woman you are dating if you know yourself that she is also interested in a younger man. When you find one, feel good about yourself because dating older woman can really be a tough process. If you think, there are things you need to change to make you feel more confident then do it. Go to the gym, have a diet, and pamper yourself. All these will be able to boost your confidence and make you ready to deal with any rejection in the future. Another thing, don’t keep the experience of dating older woman to yourself. You should at least tell your friends about it and make them involved in the process. Listen to what your friends will tell you and try to weigh their advices if they are for your own good or not.
During the dating proper, be a good conversationalist. When dating older woman, you must let her feel that you can communicate properly and that you are able to express your ideas clearly and creatively. Always remember that in dating older woman, verbal, visual, and subtle communication is necessary to make your dating experience really memorable. And having a good sense of humor can help to create a relaxing atmosphere. The older woman can feel comfortable being with you even if you are younger and will be at ease with your presence. Make her feel important and that you are interested in her.
Dating an older woman is not at all bed of roses. Just like a rose, you’ll never find one without a torn right? So, when dating older woman, be ready for the best as well as for the worst. You should always be willing to accept the complications that come with dating an older woman. If ever worse comes to worst, remember that there’s no harm in trying. It is better to date and lost than to never date at all.
Before you go on dating older woman, you must first know what kind of relationship that you want. Are you just going for a short-term relationship or a long-term? Is it for marriage? Try to assert yourself what it is really that you want before you start dating older woman. Once you are sure of yourself, the fun of dating begins. Dating older woman can be a nice and exciting experience. You must always remember to have fun and always see the lighter side of life to enjoy every moment of your dating experience. When you set your mind that dating older woman is fun, things will work out smoothly and you will find happiness in what you do. And stop worrying what others will think. In this society although many accept the fact of dating older woman, still some raise their eyebrows when they see couples together with such age gap. Don’t mind them. They will not make you less of a person. Be confident and focus yourself on your desire of dating older woman.
It is necessary that you find an older woman who is interested in a younger man. You will have bigger chances of success to win the heart of the older woman you are dating if you know yourself that she is also interested in a younger man. When you find one, feel good about yourself because dating older woman can really be a tough process. If you think, there are things you need to change to make you feel more confident then do it. Go to the gym, have a diet, and pamper yourself. All these will be able to boost your confidence and make you ready to deal with any rejection in the future. Another thing, don’t keep the experience of dating older woman to yourself. You should at least tell your friends about it and make them involved in the process. Listen to what your friends will tell you and try to weigh their advices if they are for your own good or not.
During the dating proper, be a good conversationalist. When dating older woman, you must let her feel that you can communicate properly and that you are able to express your ideas clearly and creatively. Always remember that in dating older woman, verbal, visual, and subtle communication is necessary to make your dating experience really memorable. And having a good sense of humor can help to create a relaxing atmosphere. The older woman can feel comfortable being with you even if you are younger and will be at ease with your presence. Make her feel important and that you are interested in her.
Dating an older woman is not at all bed of roses. Just like a rose, you’ll never find one without a torn right? So, when dating older woman, be ready for the best as well as for the worst. You should always be willing to accept the complications that come with dating an older woman. If ever worse comes to worst, remember that there’s no harm in trying. It is better to date and lost than to never date at all.
vrijdag 11 mei 2012
Dating Online Site UK – How The Brits Date Online
Dating online site UK is the latest dating free online UK provides a venue for those who live in the UK and are looking for good sites for online chat, dating and personals. Dating online site UK offers some of the top online dating agencies for those of you who are looking to find the perfect match, for help and advice for dating direct. Dating online site UK. If you are looking for other singles in the UK, for love online, for personal ads or just want an online chat site where you can start dating, you’ve found the best place to start.
Depending on the type of relationship you are looking for- whether casual or long-term- there is dating online site UK service available for you. Dating online site UK simply makes a match on the client and the people he or she wants to meet. The dating online site UK singles dating service caters for you - whether you're looking for a life partner, something more casual, or friendship. We offer an affordable matching service that lets you communicate without having to give out your personal details.
Dating online site UK sites are an ideal way to search and meet people at their leisure in the comfort of their own home. Dating online site UK sites allow users to register for free and view the profiles of people that match up with clients before they need to make any financial commitment.
Fee-based dating online site UK sites usually won’t allow users to communicate fully with other members before they pay for a subscription. Still, the dating online site UK sites should let users see how many singles match their search criteria and give them the opportunity to peruse the matches. If the site is being overly protective of their members, they may not have enough subscribers in the first place.
Singles in the UK now have a huge choice of dating sites and services open to them to chat and mail. so that whether you are in London, Birmingham, Manchester, Nottingham, Edinburgh, Glasgow, Bristol, Cardiff or Leeds we can find the right place for you to help you start dating direct and find your perfect match. Some sites let you look for singles online in the same towns as you, so if you live in Leeds or Manchester you can find other single people close to you and not living in Brighton or Bristol! Direct dating services are all about making life easy for you. A dating agency is another alternative. But you need to undergo an interview and to provide references.
Depending on the type of relationship you are looking for- whether casual or long-term- there is dating online site UK service available for you. Dating online site UK simply makes a match on the client and the people he or she wants to meet. The dating online site UK singles dating service caters for you - whether you're looking for a life partner, something more casual, or friendship. We offer an affordable matching service that lets you communicate without having to give out your personal details.
Dating online site UK sites are an ideal way to search and meet people at their leisure in the comfort of their own home. Dating online site UK sites allow users to register for free and view the profiles of people that match up with clients before they need to make any financial commitment.
Fee-based dating online site UK sites usually won’t allow users to communicate fully with other members before they pay for a subscription. Still, the dating online site UK sites should let users see how many singles match their search criteria and give them the opportunity to peruse the matches. If the site is being overly protective of their members, they may not have enough subscribers in the first place.
Singles in the UK now have a huge choice of dating sites and services open to them to chat and mail. so that whether you are in London, Birmingham, Manchester, Nottingham, Edinburgh, Glasgow, Bristol, Cardiff or Leeds we can find the right place for you to help you start dating direct and find your perfect match. Some sites let you look for singles online in the same towns as you, so if you live in Leeds or Manchester you can find other single people close to you and not living in Brighton or Bristol! Direct dating services are all about making life easy for you. A dating agency is another alternative. But you need to undergo an interview and to provide references.
maandag 7 mei 2012
Dating Senior: Where Senior Singles Find Love and Companionship
Are you a senior single who is thinking about dating again? Meeting new people can be challenging especially to older people as they often face unique circumstances.
One of the greatest challenges is that many older people have been in a relationship that may have lasted for decades. Having to learn the dating game all over can give one an awkward feeling.
It is beyond the scope of this article to offer support to the person who, for any reason, is unable to let go and start over. Such a person may need help from a professional. This article is for the relationship-ready person who does not know where (or how) to start.
Another obstacle to senior dating is that there are not too many avenues open to this age-group. Singles clubs and bars and clubs are not exactly made with this population in mind. Well, being the one senior person in a club full of twenty-something year olds is not particularly endearing, and is open to the wrong interpretation.
Added to this is feeling, real or imagined that one is no longer as attractive as they once were. Physical limitations that sometimes inevitably come with age complicate things even farther. People of the same age-group might be more understanding and accommodating to these limitations.
So, where to go for the senior single seeking a companion or partner?
While joining a group or club consisting of people with similar interests may be a starting point, there still might not be as many available (and compatible) seniors. Dating has always been a numbers game. Cruises and vacation packages for seniors could cost a fortune, with zero end-results.
One option that offers the best value is senior online dating. There are dating services dedicated specifically to helping people over 40 or 50 years old find partners.
Surveys by dating sites indicate that the fastest growing segment in online dating (aka internet dating) is the above age 40 bracket. This can be traced to the virtual non-availability of other convenient dating methods open to senior singles.
Senior dating sites are very active and are not just for retirees. Nor are they for perverts simply out to satisfy their twisted cravings. Most people in this age group seek serious relationships. Plus, you need not worry about competing with younger people as they won't be on these sites!
A senior dating service offers several advantages over other dating methods. One big advantage is ability to search among hundreds of senior singles all of whom have one goal, to find a mate. All are there because they are available (no guessing).
Another advantage is that you can search by geographical area, age, height etc., as well as interests. This greatly increases your chance of finding a compatible partner.
Reputable dating sites make huge efforts make your mate-finding experience easy through user-friendly interfaces. They also go to great lengths to protect your privacy.
Online senior personals help bring this segment of people together from the comfort and privacy of their own homes, 24/7. Seniors are able to meet on the internet without having to worry about physical limitations, loosing face, or feeling out of place.
Little wonder then, that senior dating is such a growing phenomenon on the internet. Most of the top-rated sites offer free trials. You should at least give senior online dating a try for one simple reason. It works.
One of the greatest challenges is that many older people have been in a relationship that may have lasted for decades. Having to learn the dating game all over can give one an awkward feeling.
It is beyond the scope of this article to offer support to the person who, for any reason, is unable to let go and start over. Such a person may need help from a professional. This article is for the relationship-ready person who does not know where (or how) to start.
Another obstacle to senior dating is that there are not too many avenues open to this age-group. Singles clubs and bars and clubs are not exactly made with this population in mind. Well, being the one senior person in a club full of twenty-something year olds is not particularly endearing, and is open to the wrong interpretation.
Added to this is feeling, real or imagined that one is no longer as attractive as they once were. Physical limitations that sometimes inevitably come with age complicate things even farther. People of the same age-group might be more understanding and accommodating to these limitations.
So, where to go for the senior single seeking a companion or partner?
While joining a group or club consisting of people with similar interests may be a starting point, there still might not be as many available (and compatible) seniors. Dating has always been a numbers game. Cruises and vacation packages for seniors could cost a fortune, with zero end-results.
One option that offers the best value is senior online dating. There are dating services dedicated specifically to helping people over 40 or 50 years old find partners.
Surveys by dating sites indicate that the fastest growing segment in online dating (aka internet dating) is the above age 40 bracket. This can be traced to the virtual non-availability of other convenient dating methods open to senior singles.
Senior dating sites are very active and are not just for retirees. Nor are they for perverts simply out to satisfy their twisted cravings. Most people in this age group seek serious relationships. Plus, you need not worry about competing with younger people as they won't be on these sites!
A senior dating service offers several advantages over other dating methods. One big advantage is ability to search among hundreds of senior singles all of whom have one goal, to find a mate. All are there because they are available (no guessing).
Another advantage is that you can search by geographical area, age, height etc., as well as interests. This greatly increases your chance of finding a compatible partner.
Reputable dating sites make huge efforts make your mate-finding experience easy through user-friendly interfaces. They also go to great lengths to protect your privacy.
Online senior personals help bring this segment of people together from the comfort and privacy of their own homes, 24/7. Seniors are able to meet on the internet without having to worry about physical limitations, loosing face, or feeling out of place.
Little wonder then, that senior dating is such a growing phenomenon on the internet. Most of the top-rated sites offer free trials. You should at least give senior online dating a try for one simple reason. It works.
dinsdag 1 mei 2012
How To Date Online For Seniors
Merely registering as a member on online dating sites does not guarantee that you get the perfect match. As a senior trying out his or her chances in online dating services, you should clearly state what you are looking for in a mate. Otherwise, how would the site give you its prospective matches?
Dating online with success is not hard if you remember some tips to guide you through the process. For example, you may be a member of a top senior dating site, but what if you do not check your email regularly? For all you know, someone is interested in meeting you.
And what about your online profile? Does it show your best foot forward? Or does your profile look like a warning signal for others to stay away from you?
Follow these tips in making a good profile, and your chances to get a date will increase.
1. State what your objectives are
In your profile, put something in the headline that will shout to everyone what you really are and why do people need to check you out. Be informative and catchy. Tell something about you and your objectives in a very appealing and enticing tone. An ordinary profile might not carry it, but when finding a love mate, you can use a metaphor as a “sales” tool. For example, you might want to use as headline “Mature gentleman ripe for picking” than “Decrepit old man wanting to get hitched.”
2. Accentuate the positive and specific, not the negative and general
You do want a mate, that’s why you applied as a member of an online site, isn’t it? So, like your job resume, you should focus on your positive side. Tell your good points that you could bring into a relationship. Shout to the world why they should bother reading your profile and hopefully, make communication with you. For example, instead of merely describing yourself as just “fun-loving,” why not tell something that would really show your fun-loving side? You could say instead that you “love to watch movies every weekend and going to a nice jazz bar in town.” Doesn’t that sound exciting?
3. Make the letter personalized
When writing someone you think is a potential match, avoid letter-like introductions. Instead be casual and personal in your note. You can take someone’s eyes by responding directly to something he or she said in his or her profile.
Success in getting an online match is easy with these tips.
Dating online with success is not hard if you remember some tips to guide you through the process. For example, you may be a member of a top senior dating site, but what if you do not check your email regularly? For all you know, someone is interested in meeting you.
And what about your online profile? Does it show your best foot forward? Or does your profile look like a warning signal for others to stay away from you?
Follow these tips in making a good profile, and your chances to get a date will increase.
1. State what your objectives are
In your profile, put something in the headline that will shout to everyone what you really are and why do people need to check you out. Be informative and catchy. Tell something about you and your objectives in a very appealing and enticing tone. An ordinary profile might not carry it, but when finding a love mate, you can use a metaphor as a “sales” tool. For example, you might want to use as headline “Mature gentleman ripe for picking” than “Decrepit old man wanting to get hitched.”
2. Accentuate the positive and specific, not the negative and general
You do want a mate, that’s why you applied as a member of an online site, isn’t it? So, like your job resume, you should focus on your positive side. Tell your good points that you could bring into a relationship. Shout to the world why they should bother reading your profile and hopefully, make communication with you. For example, instead of merely describing yourself as just “fun-loving,” why not tell something that would really show your fun-loving side? You could say instead that you “love to watch movies every weekend and going to a nice jazz bar in town.” Doesn’t that sound exciting?
3. Make the letter personalized
When writing someone you think is a potential match, avoid letter-like introductions. Instead be casual and personal in your note. You can take someone’s eyes by responding directly to something he or she said in his or her profile.
Success in getting an online match is easy with these tips.
maandag 16 april 2012
Dating Advice: 5 Biggest Internet Dating Mistakes
Dating after a divorce is tough. You don’t quite know where to start so here are a few internet dating mistakes and their solutions.
1. Too much too soon So you have been ploughing through those endless profiles on your internet dating site and have come up with someone who interests you. There has been an exchange of emails. He sounds fun and witty and you begin to look forward to his messages. You find yourself getting up earlier in the morning just to log on whilst you drink your coffee to see if he has sent a response to your latest remarks. During the day you compile witty replies in your head and suggestive lines to throw his way. This has gone on for a couple of weeks and he suddenly asks if he can call you. Your chest expands; you are really excited and arrange a time. Now you are curled up in your favourite chair waiting for the call. Guess what it goes well, the same light banter, his voice is not what you expect but that is OK. You talk for an hour. This becomes a daily ritual which you begin to plan your time around. And then he invites you to dinner...
2. Throwing money at it It has been a while since someone invited you out to dinner (you may be just starting dating after your divorce). Your immediate thought is what to wear, need my hair done etc. This means that you spend the best part of a week running around with the one thought in your mind “I must get this rigt”. You seem to have disappeared and you feel that you need to invent a new person to go on this date. In order to be that person you have to package yourself in some particular way. There must be some key that you can find, a particular dress, new haircut etc. You believe that you need to make yourself more appealing.
3. Thinking that you know the person The evening has arrived and you meet at the arranged restaurant (good step, as all the dating advice recommends that you meet in a public place). You are especially nervous and excited but also slightly uncomfortable because the shoes are new and you feel a bit wobbly in them. It is strange you recognise this person but at the same time you don’t. The voice you know that but he does not look like the person in the photograph, taller, shorter a bit heavier or gangly something is not as you imagined. Anyway he seems quite at ease but maybe that is just a contrast to how you are feeling. Initially conversation is going well as there are points of contact from your previous conversations but it isn’t going anywhere. By the main course you are starting to drink a little too much to fill in the silences. Your feet really hurt now and you are taking surreptitious glances at your watch – only 9 o’clock. No dessert thanks and by the way you have an early start in the office tomorrow so you have to go soon. Can’t think of anything but getting out of the shoes. Yes it was good, do call me…
4. Fantasy – it’s only in your head Next day or later in the week, the emails/calls are still coming and you continue to respond. It’s a though you have never met and you can get on with the easy going repartee that has become almost a habit. In your mind he is something you want him to be, well not quite but you can have yourself believe that he is whilst you exchange messages and late night calls. You are starting to develop a whole life in your head around this person, you imagine where you can live with him, what you will do, holidays together in fact everything you ever want witsomeone. This is taking up a lot of head space but that is enjoyable in itself, you feelconnected to someone if only in your mind.
5. Not paying attention to the signals A week or so more and you are becoming slightly irritated by the emails and are not responding quite so readily. But he asks you if you want to come out for another evening and that heart leaps to your throat again. You agree even though there is a vague memory of discomfort from th first meeting. Well you remind yourself that all the dating advice recommends that it is about getting to know someone. I can’t expect to feel comfortable about everything immediately. He is suggesting dinner again, you don’t really want to but you are not sure what you want to do so you go along with it. You had arranged to see a girl-friend that night but you tell her you can’t make it, she seems a bit put-out but you put that thought aside. The second evening seems very long.
1. Too much too soon So you have been ploughing through those endless profiles on your internet dating site and have come up with someone who interests you. There has been an exchange of emails. He sounds fun and witty and you begin to look forward to his messages. You find yourself getting up earlier in the morning just to log on whilst you drink your coffee to see if he has sent a response to your latest remarks. During the day you compile witty replies in your head and suggestive lines to throw his way. This has gone on for a couple of weeks and he suddenly asks if he can call you. Your chest expands; you are really excited and arrange a time. Now you are curled up in your favourite chair waiting for the call. Guess what it goes well, the same light banter, his voice is not what you expect but that is OK. You talk for an hour. This becomes a daily ritual which you begin to plan your time around. And then he invites you to dinner...
2. Throwing money at it It has been a while since someone invited you out to dinner (you may be just starting dating after your divorce). Your immediate thought is what to wear, need my hair done etc. This means that you spend the best part of a week running around with the one thought in your mind “I must get this rigt”. You seem to have disappeared and you feel that you need to invent a new person to go on this date. In order to be that person you have to package yourself in some particular way. There must be some key that you can find, a particular dress, new haircut etc. You believe that you need to make yourself more appealing.
3. Thinking that you know the person The evening has arrived and you meet at the arranged restaurant (good step, as all the dating advice recommends that you meet in a public place). You are especially nervous and excited but also slightly uncomfortable because the shoes are new and you feel a bit wobbly in them. It is strange you recognise this person but at the same time you don’t. The voice you know that but he does not look like the person in the photograph, taller, shorter a bit heavier or gangly something is not as you imagined. Anyway he seems quite at ease but maybe that is just a contrast to how you are feeling. Initially conversation is going well as there are points of contact from your previous conversations but it isn’t going anywhere. By the main course you are starting to drink a little too much to fill in the silences. Your feet really hurt now and you are taking surreptitious glances at your watch – only 9 o’clock. No dessert thanks and by the way you have an early start in the office tomorrow so you have to go soon. Can’t think of anything but getting out of the shoes. Yes it was good, do call me…
4. Fantasy – it’s only in your head Next day or later in the week, the emails/calls are still coming and you continue to respond. It’s a though you have never met and you can get on with the easy going repartee that has become almost a habit. In your mind he is something you want him to be, well not quite but you can have yourself believe that he is whilst you exchange messages and late night calls. You are starting to develop a whole life in your head around this person, you imagine where you can live with him, what you will do, holidays together in fact everything you ever want witsomeone. This is taking up a lot of head space but that is enjoyable in itself, you feelconnected to someone if only in your mind.
5. Not paying attention to the signals A week or so more and you are becoming slightly irritated by the emails and are not responding quite so readily. But he asks you if you want to come out for another evening and that heart leaps to your throat again. You agree even though there is a vague memory of discomfort from th first meeting. Well you remind yourself that all the dating advice recommends that it is about getting to know someone. I can’t expect to feel comfortable about everything immediately. He is suggesting dinner again, you don’t really want to but you are not sure what you want to do so you go along with it. You had arranged to see a girl-friend that night but you tell her you can’t make it, she seems a bit put-out but you put that thought aside. The second evening seems very long.
Too much too soon – It is so tempting to put all your focus on one person at a time when you are looking to date on the internet. But it is important to remember that not only are all those people out there looking at numerous people at any one time but you could be too. If you put most of your time and energy into any one contact at a very early stage this means that you cannot scout, screen and sort other possible people. Dating Advice: Don’t make a big investment emotionally in any relationship without solid foundations.
Throwing money at it - Recent research has revealed that online daters are spending up to £1,500 a month taking out people who they realise, after the first 15 minutes are not for them. (Independent, June 2005) Remember be authentic, the packaging is only that and is not who you are. Meeting for a cup of coffee or a drink will give you enough time to assess whether this person is someone you want to know better. Dating Advice: Packaging is not the answer, be clear about who you are, what you want in a relationship and set about finding it in a considered way.
Thinking you know this person – We can easily be seduced by email conversations and late night telephone calls. Apart from the actual chemistry that is missing in these exchanges there is that part that you know very well yourself, where you just reveal what you want at any given time. If you know what your requirements are in a relationship this will help you assess quite quikly if this person is for you. Most of us allow things to just drift along and are not pro-active in having a plan for ourselves when it comes to relationships. Dating Advice: How is it we plan for everything except relationships? Take some time to plan what you want in a relationship before you get into a habit or rut with someone.
Fantasy – it’s only in your head – It is very easy to live in the fantasy of a relationship even from a very early stage. After all that is why you have signed up on the dating site in the first place – you want a relationship. However, being truthful with yourself is easier if you have a relationship plan. Then you can ask yourself, from the information you have so far, does this person tick some of my boxes. If so then you can continue to find out more about them whilst finding out about other people at the same time. Projecting onto any one person, especially at a very early stage, all you hopes and dreams is likely to bring you some amount of pain and heartache when you find this isn’t going to work out. Dating Advice: Spread the emotional load by giving your attention to a number of people, it helps deal with the ups and downs of the dating cycle if you are not exclusive right from the start
Not paying enough attention to the signals – it is amazing how quickly we can get ourselves into habits and relationships, however new, are one of those areas. We all like attention and contact with people but what about the rest of your life, those friends who have been around for you, your family. Anyone who might be for you will, you hope, want to share life with a person who has a balanced life and that includes all the other activities and people in your life. Straining towards exclusivity at a very early stage and throwing all your time and attention towards the relationship can be a disaster. Dating Advice: Get out there and have any dating and relationships fit in with your life as a successful single. Know what your requirements, needs and wants are and look for someone who can meet these.
woensdag 4 april 2012
10 Golden Rules For Successful Online Dating
As everyone knows, the favourite method of mating and dating for singletons the world over is to join an online dating site. But what most people don't realise is that only around 10% of dating site members actually meet a long-term partner on their chosen site and a whopping 70% don't even receive one message from another member. If you follow the 10 simple steps outlined below, you too can join the 10% who find love and romance on line.
1. Choose the right site. The boom in online dating has provided a plethora of choice for consumers but you should take a few moments to decide on the type of partner you're looking for, not to mention the town or city where you would prefer him/her to be located. There are niche sites which cater to all sectors (single parents, bikers, gay people etc) and general sites which welcome all comers just as there are city or country specific sites and sites with a global perspective. Choosing the right site for you is probably the most important decision you'll make when looking for a partner on line.
2. Choose a great username. First impressions always last and the on line identity which you give yourself is the first thing that other members will see before they check-out your profile. 'Funny' works, 'cryptic' works and you wont go far wrong even if you decide to use your own christian name; but if you go down the smutty or sexually suggestive route (which a lot of guys seem to do), you'll find that other members will give you a wide berth.
3. Upload a photo. This is crucial as a significant percentage of people only search for members who have bothered to include a pic; you want to see what other members look like so it stands to reason that other people will feel the same way about you. If the only photo you have isn't particularly flattering, you can always mention that in your profile - it's still better than no photo at all.
4. Complete your profile. There's nothing more off-putting than a profile which screams "I can't be bothered to do this properly". If you don't have time to complete all the categories when you are signing-up, then make the time to do so at the earliest opportunity.
5. Be upbeat and positive. If you're feeling a little down or lacking in confidence, now isn't the time to say so when you're writing a description of yourself. If you come across as confident, happy and full of fun, you'll get much more attention than if you come across as mono-syllabic or down in the dumps. And remember, humour is a real ice-breaker and a great aphrodisiac.
6. Widen your search criteria. If you generally go for people who have blonde hair, blue eyes and are between 5'4" and 5'6" and you narrow your search down to just these specifics, then you may be missing out on a great many other members who you'll also find just as attractive. To start with, just search by gender, age and location and that way you'll be giving yourself the widest possible choice.
7. Don't automatically dismiss people. If you receive a message from someone who's profile you like but who hasn't bothered to include a photo, you should still write back and ask them to send a pic to your regular email address. You'll find that many people are more willing to do this than post a pic for all and sundry to look at.
8. Use all the features on offer. Many sites provide a great deal more than just an internal emailing system. Some sites might include voice messaging whilst others enable members to chat and flirt in 'real time' with other members and the more you take advantage of everything that's available to you, the more chance you have of making contact with someone special.
9. Be proactive. Once you've registered and completed your profile, don't wait for others to make contact with you. When you spot someone who you think might be a good fit with yourself, write to them and introduce yourself. And don't just say 'Hi, I like your profile', tell them why you've written to them and point out the things that you believe you have in common. A long opening message will create a much better impression than a short, perfunctory one.
10. Check back with the site. Most popular dating sites have new people joining all the time so remember to log-in at least once every day to view the most recent members and you can then contact anyone you like the look of before others get the chance to do so. Also, you should remember that on most sites, the members who log-in the most appear higher up the search listings than those who don't so your profile will be easier to spot by people with whom you might be compatible.
So there you have it - successful online dating is not rocket science; it just takes a bit of thought and a bit of effort and if you adhere to the 10 rules that I have outlined above, then your personal life will soon receive the kick-start it deserves.
1. Choose the right site. The boom in online dating has provided a plethora of choice for consumers but you should take a few moments to decide on the type of partner you're looking for, not to mention the town or city where you would prefer him/her to be located. There are niche sites which cater to all sectors (single parents, bikers, gay people etc) and general sites which welcome all comers just as there are city or country specific sites and sites with a global perspective. Choosing the right site for you is probably the most important decision you'll make when looking for a partner on line.
2. Choose a great username. First impressions always last and the on line identity which you give yourself is the first thing that other members will see before they check-out your profile. 'Funny' works, 'cryptic' works and you wont go far wrong even if you decide to use your own christian name; but if you go down the smutty or sexually suggestive route (which a lot of guys seem to do), you'll find that other members will give you a wide berth.
3. Upload a photo. This is crucial as a significant percentage of people only search for members who have bothered to include a pic; you want to see what other members look like so it stands to reason that other people will feel the same way about you. If the only photo you have isn't particularly flattering, you can always mention that in your profile - it's still better than no photo at all.
4. Complete your profile. There's nothing more off-putting than a profile which screams "I can't be bothered to do this properly". If you don't have time to complete all the categories when you are signing-up, then make the time to do so at the earliest opportunity.
5. Be upbeat and positive. If you're feeling a little down or lacking in confidence, now isn't the time to say so when you're writing a description of yourself. If you come across as confident, happy and full of fun, you'll get much more attention than if you come across as mono-syllabic or down in the dumps. And remember, humour is a real ice-breaker and a great aphrodisiac.
6. Widen your search criteria. If you generally go for people who have blonde hair, blue eyes and are between 5'4" and 5'6" and you narrow your search down to just these specifics, then you may be missing out on a great many other members who you'll also find just as attractive. To start with, just search by gender, age and location and that way you'll be giving yourself the widest possible choice.
7. Don't automatically dismiss people. If you receive a message from someone who's profile you like but who hasn't bothered to include a photo, you should still write back and ask them to send a pic to your regular email address. You'll find that many people are more willing to do this than post a pic for all and sundry to look at.
8. Use all the features on offer. Many sites provide a great deal more than just an internal emailing system. Some sites might include voice messaging whilst others enable members to chat and flirt in 'real time' with other members and the more you take advantage of everything that's available to you, the more chance you have of making contact with someone special.
9. Be proactive. Once you've registered and completed your profile, don't wait for others to make contact with you. When you spot someone who you think might be a good fit with yourself, write to them and introduce yourself. And don't just say 'Hi, I like your profile', tell them why you've written to them and point out the things that you believe you have in common. A long opening message will create a much better impression than a short, perfunctory one.
10. Check back with the site. Most popular dating sites have new people joining all the time so remember to log-in at least once every day to view the most recent members and you can then contact anyone you like the look of before others get the chance to do so. Also, you should remember that on most sites, the members who log-in the most appear higher up the search listings than those who don't so your profile will be easier to spot by people with whom you might be compatible.
So there you have it - successful online dating is not rocket science; it just takes a bit of thought and a bit of effort and if you adhere to the 10 rules that I have outlined above, then your personal life will soon receive the kick-start it deserves.
zondag 1 april 2012
UK Dating Statistics Reveals Positive Results for the Dating Industry
You would be surprised to know that the present society is witnessing more numbers of divorces than marriages. Here follows the top ten results of divorce percentages by country:
1. Belarus - 68%
2. Russian Federation – 65%
3. Sweden – 64%
4. Latvia – 63%
5. Ukraine – 63%
6. Czech Republic – 61%
7. Belgium – 56%
8. Finland – 56%
9. Lithuania – 55%
10. United Kingdom – 53%
The above numbers suggest that people are not maintaining long lasting relationships. Statistics like these and the increased rate of divorce fuels the growing popularity of UK dating web sites; many adults, especially those recently divorced or out of a serious long-term relationship, are no longer familiar with how to meet people socially and turn to the internet as a convenient tool for re-emerging into the dating world. One of the leading UK dating web sites has conducted a survey of their member profiles. The results are very interesting:
• 53% have dated more than one person at the same time.
• 71% believe in love at first sight.
• 30% consider personality in choosing a mate; 14% consider sense of humor and 11% go by looks.
• 29% say unfaithfulness is the primary reason behind relationship break ups.
• 78% believe that his/her companion is not 100% honest with them.
• 25% believe that a casual dating partnership becomes a serious relationship when one says "I Love You."
• 67% don't trust their partners on the first date.
• 44% believe a 5 year gap should be maintained while choosing a mate.
• 69% are utilizing online dating web sites to find dates.
• Despite such a high divorce average in the UK, 44% of respondents want to marry again.
• 22% believe the work or office provides a great source for dates.
This is the dating scenario in the UK. The most encouraging fact for the UK dating web sites is that more than half of the singles are finding their partners online. Kisscafé has been providing dating services in the UK free of cost.
About Kisscafé
Kisscafé is one of the fastest growing social networking and dating websites in the World Wide Web. The best aspect of this dating service provider is that all the exclusive service features (which other popular networking sites provide as subscribed services) absolutely FREE. Currently Kisscafé has 22 international websites and plans to launch even more sites in additional countries. Efficient Instant Messenger, multilingual capabilities and advanced profile search technology has made Kisscafé one of the leading online dating service providers on the Web. Kisscafé member blogs are a great source of interesting posts related to the dating industry, including dating advice, personal stories and much more. For more details, you can log in to their site and compare their services with other dating sites.
1. Belarus - 68%
2. Russian Federation – 65%
3. Sweden – 64%
4. Latvia – 63%
5. Ukraine – 63%
6. Czech Republic – 61%
7. Belgium – 56%
8. Finland – 56%
9. Lithuania – 55%
10. United Kingdom – 53%
The above numbers suggest that people are not maintaining long lasting relationships. Statistics like these and the increased rate of divorce fuels the growing popularity of UK dating web sites; many adults, especially those recently divorced or out of a serious long-term relationship, are no longer familiar with how to meet people socially and turn to the internet as a convenient tool for re-emerging into the dating world. One of the leading UK dating web sites has conducted a survey of their member profiles. The results are very interesting:
• 53% have dated more than one person at the same time.
• 71% believe in love at first sight.
• 30% consider personality in choosing a mate; 14% consider sense of humor and 11% go by looks.
• 29% say unfaithfulness is the primary reason behind relationship break ups.
• 78% believe that his/her companion is not 100% honest with them.
• 25% believe that a casual dating partnership becomes a serious relationship when one says "I Love You."
• 67% don't trust their partners on the first date.
• 44% believe a 5 year gap should be maintained while choosing a mate.
• 69% are utilizing online dating web sites to find dates.
• Despite such a high divorce average in the UK, 44% of respondents want to marry again.
• 22% believe the work or office provides a great source for dates.
This is the dating scenario in the UK. The most encouraging fact for the UK dating web sites is that more than half of the singles are finding their partners online. Kisscafé has been providing dating services in the UK free of cost.
About Kisscafé
Kisscafé is one of the fastest growing social networking and dating websites in the World Wide Web. The best aspect of this dating service provider is that all the exclusive service features (which other popular networking sites provide as subscribed services) absolutely FREE. Currently Kisscafé has 22 international websites and plans to launch even more sites in additional countries. Efficient Instant Messenger, multilingual capabilities and advanced profile search technology has made Kisscafé one of the leading online dating service providers on the Web. Kisscafé member blogs are a great source of interesting posts related to the dating industry, including dating advice, personal stories and much more. For more details, you can log in to their site and compare their services with other dating sites.
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